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Starting over
LaTonya McKoy of the nonprofit agency Interact of Wake County offers these tips for starting over after leaving a destructive relationship:
- Put a safety plan in place. Gather all important papers (such as Social Security cards, birth certificates, financial and immigration records) in a safe place you can get to in a hurry, along with some extra cash, credit cards and a suitcase of clothes and other essential belongings in case you need to leave in a hurry. Hide an extra set of house keys and car keys in a safe place, or give them to a friend or neighbor for safekeeping. Talk to your children about safety, and teach them about 911 and where they can go to be safe.
- Build a support network of people familiar with your situation, so you can share information in a safe, supportive environment. Professional counseling can be an effective way to cope with emotions such as anger, grief, loss and self-esteem issues, for victims as well as their children.
- Regain control of personal finances. Check credit reports to make sure you have an accurate picture of your financial situation.
- Consider keeping a journal for personal reflection.
- Recognize there may be more bumps along the way, but stay positive while focusing on short- and long-term goals.
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Could 2008 be your year for change? Maybe it's the beginning of sobriety for you, or maybe you are trying to pick up the pieces after the loss of a loved one.
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