The issue of same-sex marriage rights soon will be addressed by the U.S. Supreme Court.
The possibility of finally having my civil rights validated and experiencing the recognition of my 31-year relationship with Ann could be the fulfillment of a lifetime dream.
We have raised five children, cared for dying parents and held numerous newly born grandchildren. Our life together has paralleled the lives of most heterosexual couples: We’ve bought and paid for our home, earned graduate degrees, started new professional careers and, after many years, retired from full-time work. The crises, obstacles and illnesses which have occurred along the way have been faced together.
Recently, we proudly participated in the “We do” campaign, requesting marriage licenses at the Durham County clerk’s office. We knew we would be denied, but it was a way to focus attention to the issue of same-sex marriage rights. We are legally married in New York, but that union bears no validity in N.C.
At this time I can only hold my breath and hope that the highest court will grant us civil rights and view us as do our grandchildren: To them, we are merely “Grannie Annie” and “Grannie Barb.”