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Published Sat, Nov 07, 2009 12:26 PM
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Rihanna: Chris Brown beat me 'like he had nothing to lose'

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Rihanna, right, speaks to Diane Sawyer in her first TV interview since she was beaten by then-boyfriend Chris Brown.
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A couple of hours before "20/20" broadcast the interview of singer Rihanna by Diane Sawyer, I was involved in a three-way, sometimes loud, discussion about the Rihanna/Chris Brown incident.

The guy in the conversation, who is a good guy, basically said that it was odd that Chris Brown beat Rihanna for no reason, thus suggesting that somehow Rihanna was at fault somehow, and then said that he thought it unfair that Chris Brown was still a pariah. He feels that we (society) shouldn't hold celebrities to a higher standard, and, I guess, in real life Chris wouldn't be having it so hard.

Again, this is a good guy. And I hope he watched Rihanna's interview because she addressed all his issues.

The interesting thing about the interview was that it was basically structured as a public service announcement; Rihanna got to talk about her specific case, but it perfectly framed her story as one of many, and put her in a position as a strong voice against domestic violence, particularly against young girls.

Sawyer used fan reaction and domestic violence stats to tell a bigger story. Rihanna, we learned, grew up with a father who abused her mother, a common trait for those who abuse and get abused. (Oddly, her father was making all kinds of comments after the incident.)

Rihanna talked about how fast she and Brown fell for each other and described their relationship as "obsession."

And she detailed what happened the night of the beating. She saw a text from Brown's old girlfriend, catching him in a lie. She wouldn't let in go and he, caught, got annoyed that she wouldn't drop it. Rihanna made clear it was a verbal argument and that she never hit him. She said, in fact, she wasn't interested in hurting him. She just wanted the beating to stop.

His eyes were blank and she thought he was beating her "like he has nothing to lose." That's a pretty powerful description of blind rage.

She said that he had never hit her before, but after Diane pointed out other reports saying he did, Rihanna admitted that she meant he never beat her like THAT before. (Chris Brown denies that there were other incidents. Did he mean other 'bad' incidents? Does he really not remember? Is he really that sick?)

Rihanna also revealed the complex emotions a victim of abuse experiences; the stuff that makes the rest of us not understand their actions. It seems that once the swelling fades, you forget a bit and start to thinking. She describes herself initially wondering what she could have said to cause this. She became lonely, not wanting to be pitied as the victim by others, and so, shutting down. And then, she felt she had to protect Brown because if she felt that bad how bad must he be feeling.

That confusion is what sent her to their Diddy-sponsored rendezvous in Miami. And, it seems, that when we saw Chris Brown on that jetski, it may not have been exuberance on his face, but relief that everything was going to be OK again.

But Rihanna says she began to resent him; everything he did annoyed her. Soon after Miami, she broke it off.

Rihanna says she wants to hear nothing from Brown; she wishes him a good life. She wants him to accept what he did as a man and not feel sorry for himself. She acknowledged that she still had lingering love for him, he was her first great love, but having those emotions annoys her. She thinks it's possible for him to change.

What Rihanna says helped motivate her was the e-mails, texts and YouTube videos from fans. "My selfish decision for love could get a young girl killed."

That, I think, sums up my friend's problem with celebrities being treated differently than others. The fact is celebrities ARE different from us. And in this case, Rihanna, sooo much more mature and articulate than Brown, may have been saved by that difference.

Perhaps without the burden of a million eyes watching, she would have gone back to Brown.

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