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Pam Saulsby: The secret’s out

Good friends do all they can to help you when you’re feeling down and out. My peeps are definitely coming through for me, as I weather storms that are hitting me in my career transition.

Truth be told, there are times I’ve locked myself in this apartment and stayed buried under the cover of blankets. Perhaps you know that feeling. Those times when nothing is going quite right. You’re getting more rejections than real possibilities in the search for a decent-paying job.

My generous and compassionate friends are giving me advice, free meals and books. Lots of them! The titles include: “The Power of Positive Thinking,” “Who Moved My Cheese,” “Breaking Your Own Rules” and “Mastering the Art of Success.”

Something different happened about a month ago. A friend and fellow Musician suggested I watch a video, “The Secret.”

All right, OK, I know it’s not a secret anymore! The self-help book “The Secret,” written by Rhonda Byrne, came out almost 10 years ago.

It has sold more than 19 million copies worldwide. A global phenomenon.

Today, everything in the book and in the film is pretty much common knowledge. But for the uninitiated allow me to let you in on the little old secret behind “The Secret.” It’s all about the Law of Attraction. Simply put the book claims that positive thinking can create life-changing results such as wealth, health and happiness.

The video lays it out in very simple terms how to renew your life. It says we attract what we like, and we attract what we think about the most.

Skeptics say it’s all a bunch of hokum. Some say if it were that easy, then doggone it, everybody would be strutting along on Easy Street with their cups running over with health, wealth and happiness!

I had never cracked the book or watched the film until Thursday, Feb. 5, 2015. On that day I was sitting alone in my apartment with a break between appointments. I remembered a little note I received from my friend John a few weeks back. We are Facebook friends.

John told me that he was picking up what I was putting down in social media about my successes and failures around re-inventing myself. He advised me to watch “The Secret.” Actually John was maybe the last person I thought would, number one, watch such a video; and number two, offer it up to his good friends as a book that could change their lives.

I sat down and watched “The Secret.” I even took notes! In short order, I began putting the principles into practice. Some of the steps include: Making a list of what you are thankful for in your life, appreciating what you already have, and letting the universe know what you want. I got into it. I turned all the things I fancied into fact.

People, I tell you no lie! The universe responded!

The very next day after I watched “The Secret,” some major stuff started happening to me. I started getting emails and phone calls from people I know and barely know. A friend offered up a couple of good, paying gigs. One man I barely know called me and directly connected me with one of Gov. McCrory’s staff members. I was invited to deliver a keynote address in Fayetteville later this year. When I quoted my rate, there was no hesitation. The representative for the company just moved on to the particulars of the event without skipping a beat. Better than that, I have a solid lead for a big job opportunity in communications. I continue to embrace new blessings in my life as I follow my bliss. I’m a believer.

Hey, but no worries, if this sounds absurd to you. Perhaps we could agree on a different, less New Age self-help message that also promises positive outcomes in your life, if it’s done right. It’s an old one. The Golden rule: Luke 6:31 do to others, as you would have them do to you.

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