Betty Lou (Smith) Tomczak, age 90, of Carrboro, NC, passed away Saturday, March 15, 2014, at Duke Hospice at the Hock Family Pavilion. With her two daughters by her side, Betty made her transition peacefully in her sleep. She was very proud of turning 90.
Betty was born in Conneaut, Ohio, on February 26, 1924, to James W. and Minta (Lewis) Smith. She was a 1942 graduate of Conneaut High School. She then moved to New York City and married her husband, Theodore Tomczak. In September 2000 she retired to Carrboro, NC, and made Carolina Spring Apartments her home.
She was a loving and caring mother. Separated from her husband, Betty raised her two daughters in New York City. She exposed them to the sophistication of New York City and the joys of carefree summers with her family on Lake Erie in Conneaut, Ohio.
Betty was a giving and thoughtful friend and looked forward to her weekly lunches with Ann Levy, a friendship that spanned 62 years. She was a loyal friend to Beatrice and Hugo Birrer from Switzerland for over 50 years. People were always taken by Betty’s offbeat sense of humor and how she made them laugh.
She was highly creative which was reflected in her numerous arts and crafts activities and the clothes she sewed for her daughters when they were younger. Her handmade greeting cards were treasures to her family and friends. Her neighbors at Carolina Spring Apartments also looked forward to her innovative and beautiful door displays which reflected the changing of the seasons.
Up until the end, she loved to go out to her favorite restaurants, go food shopping, and cook her favorite meals. She will always be remembered for her “famous” spaghetti and meatballs.
Survivors include her two daughters, Terry Melville of Chapel Hill and High Point, NC; Patty (William) Frey of Efland, NC; and her nephews and nieces, Thomas Smith, Timothy Smith, Ronald Smith, Linda Pfister, and Debra MacDonald.
She was preceded in death by her spouse, Theodore Tomczak, in 1982, her parents, and her brothers James Smith and Wallace Smith.
Her daughters would like to express their gratitude to the entire staff of UNC Geriatrics Specialty Clinic, UNC Health Care, and Duke Hospice at the Hock Family Pavilion for the care and compassion that they have shown to not only Betty but her daughters.
Memorials may be made in Betty’s name with the World Wildlife Fund (WWF) or Duke Hospice at the Hock Family Pavilion.
A memorial service is being planned for a later date.
She will be missed.